When most people think of a wedding, they imagine an extravagant festival with a large crowd to help celebrate the special day. Although this can be a great thing, it also requires an incredible amount of effort, stress, and money to make it all happen. A wedding should be about the communion of love between two people and should not by any means be stressful, but, rather, a time of joy.
What Defines an Intimate Wedding?
An intimate wedding is hard to define because every person has his or her idea of what is too big and too small. To some, an intimate wedding could be less than fifty people, but to another it could be about a hundred and fifty people. Regardless of perceptual differences, many people agree that an intimate wedding only includes your close personal family, as well as friends that mean the most to you.
Negative Reactions to an Intimate Wedding
Restricting the number of invitations sent out is clearly a good method when you are trying to save stress and energy for all involved, but not everybody will see it that way. Some backlash may come from your family who might think that it should be a public event to showcase your love to society and celebrate with the surrounding community. They also may say that it makes them look like they cannot afford a big wedding, and they may fear being perceived this way by others.
These are all reasonable reactions and should be taken into consideration. One thing to always remember, however, is that it is your day and, if you truly desire a small wedding, then you should go for it.
Surprising the Guests
One way to go about it that would leave out a lot of unwanted debate is to have a surprise wedding without telling any of your close personal friends and family. The clear benefits from this are no planning, saving a lot of money, and saving the stress for both yourself, and your family and friends. This situation would leave out all the stress that your loved ones would have to go through to get a gift and buy outfits for the occasion, as well as help you plan for the big day.
While these are obviously very nice gestures, it may not be the dream wedding for some, as it is more simplified, and without the theme and regular flash of most weddings. It also may take away from the excitement of a buildup to a wedding, but could potentially condense all that energy into one amazing night.
Investing in the Future
If saving energy and reducing stress aren’t big enough motivators, the financial savings from a small wedding might help change your mind. According to InfoPlease, the average age in 2010 for a person’s first marriage was twenty-six. For many people, this is a time of getting comfortable in their job and beginning to start saving and investing money to become financially stable. Having a huge wedding and spending thousands of dollars when you often are just starting off in life makes little sense. Having a small wedding and putting that money toward your future life as a couple seems to work a little better.
Quality over Quantity
Saving money on the number of guests you invite allows you to put all the money you have for the wedding into getting the best items possible for the close friends that you invite. If you invite a few hundred people, it’s going to be a bit pricey trying to get the finest lobster to feed them all. If you invite twenty-five, however, it is more plausible to get lobster or any expensive meal that will be much appreciated by your guests. Keeping the guest list small gives you more leeway toward getting food and decorations that both you and your guests will truly enjoy.
Fewer People, More Fun
Your parents are awesome, and their friends are, too, but does Bob from your dad’s accounting firm really need to be attending your most intimate day? Parents have a tendency to over-invite many friends because they don’t want anybody to feel excluded from this special day. While this is a very nice gesture, it only adds more expense and causes small talk, which is uncomfortable on a day when you really just want to celebrate your love with your significant other. One advantage of small weddings is that they make it so that only your close friends and family are invited, and you don’t have to feel guilty about forgetting anyone.
Your day can be even more special with fewer people, because you get to truly spend it with the people that you care about. Many people look back on their weddings and say they didn’t even get to spend much time with the people they cared about the most, because there were so many people attending. A small, intimate wedding makes it about you, and those who love you and who will be there for you for the rest of your life. It gives you the opportunity to truly appreciate all those people who have helped you get to the place you currently are in life.
Having a smaller wedding also gives you the advantage of having more options for the wedding reception. With the money saved on the wedding, you can have a lavish reception if you desire, or you can choose to go to a restaurant down the street, since you don’t have to reserve it for a party of three hundred. You don’t have to hire an expensive DJ, or you can even rent out speakers and hook up your computer to place music.
Another bonus is that everybody will be able to get into the reception picture. Although this may seem like a small thing, ask anybody with a huge wedding, and they will tell you just how good you have it.
Clearly, there are a lot of benefits to a small, intimate wedding and, if you’re not convinced yet, here’s one more reason to consider them. Besides the wedding being one of the best days of your life, your honeymoon is a whole week spent with the person you care about most. Having an intimate wedding can provide for a more intimate honeymoon, because you will not only have saved a lot of money, but you will also have saved so much time planning. This allows for more time to be spent planning your honeymoon, as well as less to worry about while you do plan.
An intimate wedding has a lot of attractive features. They are not for everyone. If you have always dreamed of a large, fancy wedding since you were young, then an intimate wedding is not for you.
However, if you want to save money and still create memories that you will cherish forever, then an intimate wedding is a great option.